CHOICES, CHOICES ÷A TRY-OUT ACTIVITY AND "UNGAME"
You are a winner when you explore CREST Choices through our STOP-THINK-CHOOSE web page and then make better choices in your life. CHOICES, CHOICES is a try-out activity and "ungame" that can help you think ahead about your interactions with others.
As you develop improved skills in choice-making you can decide ahead of time what kind of stance you will take when you next see "Sweet Old Bob or Bobby" (who may sometimes just be referred to by the three initials). You can even resolve ahead of time that you will make the first move and it will be an OK one. Do that and you are not as likely to get trapped in the pattern suggested in the title of our work-in-process: IF YOU ALWAYS DO WHAT YOU'VE ALWAYS DONE, YOU'LL ALWAYS GET WHAT YOU ALWAYS GOT.
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HERE GOES: Assume you are in the situation that follows, and invent choices and follow directions as suggested below. The situation may not fit your life space exactly, but if you put yourself in the role and try it on you may find that in a different form you can use the choices you create ÷ and make life better for yourself.
SITUATION: I'D REALLY LIKE TO SEE YOU
You've gotten the calendar clear for the afternoon and have some minor projects lined up. You're all alone for a change and have been looking forward to this time on your own. You recently met a like-minded (same-gender) newcomer at a community event and exchanged phone numbers, and you suggested that the two of you get together soon. You made that comment with the thought that this person might become a good friend. The phone rings, and after a pleasant chat about the event and how much you each enjoyed your get-together, this acquaintance says, "Any chance we could get together for a couple of hours today ÷ at my place or yours, or somewhere over coffee or a soft drink? Something has come up and I need someone to talk with about it ÷ and the phone just won't do it for me. I'd really like to see you."
Here is how you can use this situation as a choice-making try-out "ungame" activity:
Two notes:
Now and then the choice we make doesn't really respond to what came before. A says: "Did you see where I put the newspaper?" B replies: "Oh, that reminds me, I need to call Dale." If you can't find a relevant choice that you think would be effective, figure out one that isn't related to what the other person said or did; but one that you think might at least be OK with that person.
Also, understand that even if you make your best effort the other person may not see your choice as OK from his/her point of view. "OKness" depends on many factors, including such matters as the other person's state of mind at the time and how your relationship stands at the moment.
You're a winner inside yourself if your responses are effective ÷ especially so if you put them into practice ÷ whether or not your responses appear later on the CREST CHOICES RECOGNITION PAGE. If we select your entry as the best one overall you will receive a prize (discussed below). We will also recognize what we think are among the best Caring, Ruling, Enjoying, Sorrowing, and Thinking/Working choices in the situation. As is often said regarding entries, decisions of the judges are final. If you win the prize, or if one or more of your responses is recognized, we'll respect your choice to be identified by name, or by code, e.g., A Player from Seattle (or wherever), or by your e-mail address.
THE PRIZE: This prize for the winning entry to I'D REALLY LIKE TO SEE YOU is an autographed copy of CHOOSING A BETTER WAY TO LIVE ÷ so be sure your mailing address appears on the entry.
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